English has a word, called crush. If the dictionary, it will tell you that it was " crushed , crushed , crushed " means. Later, I came to the United States , before we know it as a noun , as well as a layer of meaning : that is , " briefly , but was warmly shy love ." For example , "I had a crush on him", that "I have briefly , warmly , but shyly liked him ."
Crush means, so long, so delicate , I have not found a suitable Chinese word to translate . "Heart " seems to be a very close translation, but the "heart" and "crush" compared to the emotional intensity is more weak , more durable in time , and a little toward love, marriage that aspect enough ambition. Crush is different, it is short-lived, but let you captivated .
I think Crush is a particularly useful vocabulary. It was particularly useful, because I realized that , in fact, the majority of life experience "Love " is "crush" in the form of existence . If you let me counting down , my 30 years in the end the real "love" too many people, I am afraid that is a ...... two ...... absolutely no more than three . But if I think about it, how many people they have had a crush, it is much, Ah , anyway, I am sorry counted .
Love is a tuberculosis , crush it was a cold. Tuberculosis people decimated , survived , colds cough point is just to let you cough , sneeze RBI , but it is from time to time on the attack again.
Crush generally fast and violent . Newcomer to the time , and you will mistakenly think that is love. It broke out , usually by a certain factor suddenly bewitched , cause you start possessed . For example , you are like someone good looking , handsome make you drool . Such as a personal way of speaking that you find particularly comfortable. For example, you saw a person on the Internet an article , do you think , write nice ah , I must know him, something must happen between us . Sometimes , crush small inexplicable reasons . Possible only because a man's hand looks especially good-looking , but that day he used those hands come forward to give you their food , you'll love him for three days . May also be because of a man laughing demeanor particularly childish, a whole week you can not forget that face.
But the beginning , you do not know it was just three days , one week 's crush, you are holding yourself " beating" beating heart , think he nice , really unparalleled , really I am looking for a lifetime of people ah.
Then you began to imagine . There was a time , ranging from a few days to a few weeks, you live in the clouds . You fancy him see you. You imagine that you walk in the street , cross the road , he takes you by the hand , and then refused to let go . You imagine that you stay in the room , for the three hundred eighty kinds hugging posture , but still did not talk to each other speak words finished .
And so you put the fantasy fantasy finished, this will crush the fuel runs out .
Crush and love difference lies , had a chance to share fantasies into action , it has gone away . The reason it did not translate into action , perhaps because you're shy , embarrassed expression , and then accidentally miss out on this person. Perhaps it is because you do not have the "development" of opportunity, time or distance of space , so that the share of "heart" slowly suffocate from lack of oxygen . Perhaps it is because until the enemy came closer , you see his whole , his body the "bright spots" slowly being diluted his other shortcomings , so that feelings had a chance to sublimation , it has rotted down.
Love, it is a small animal , to raise it grows , the need to give it every day delicious drink , no action dribs and drabs , " feeding ", crush it so short-lived , and then dying down.
The other party may not even know you have " short , warm and shy love" him, and afterwards you may not recognize or do not believe they have " a short , warm and shy love" him , but it did have a short time , because this man, you happy. You Qiqiaoshengyan disowned lost three of five fall. You get rid of the earth and in the illusion of attraction soar .Crush is the speed mortal . It 's cruel and beautiful in here.
When the crush trying to become a spark from a seed to take root when in reality , all the " fuss " began to appear : Oh, in fact, he seems to be quite sharp ...... "career" not very good ...... he kinda macho ...... do not look so good ...... then "responsibility" ah, "morality" ah, "family" ah, all worldly noise, start the name of " love " in the name , sneak crush, take it from corrosion whistle loudly into the bright an excessively bureaucratic soap opera.
Unfortunately, people always crush mistaken for love, corrupt share fantasies light. People can not wait in the light from that moment , pulling out a large section of the heavy story , finally overwhelmed by this heavy , bogged down , diehard .
However Lightning how it could be fixed ? C said that the face of some possibilities , turned away , is a beautiful mistake , but it went up , it is a stupid mistake .So when the crush comes, indulge it, but without trying to grab it , put it into love at first forced them to forage . You can chin design that obviously can not happen in every detail : the debate with himself that the next time I saw him wearing clothes that say, that asked the question , which some eyes, at the same time you know that in fact deeply Next month, you'll forget him . Are you obsessed with this fantasy, but also stay in this fantasy . You looked at the hands of the Okanagan matches, so short, and slowly burn the fingertips, then turn off. Lit, you are thankful for the endless darkness short of that point , however bright flame.
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---------------------In-depth understanding of American culture , I find some of this crush is worth playing . Very precise , but in our culture , but rare. Read so many romance novels , no one ever told me I should distinguish between crush and love: crush sudden fascination is short , and love is zhigenzhidi mind after two traffic and dependence.
Think about eighteen years of so much confusion, sometimes just crush nothing , but they thought it was a cup of love coming , the result is a tangle while caught them while also "I love how a man who has " issues . How I wish someone was able to jump out to me and said : "Oh , wake up the girl , it was just a crush."
It was just a crush. So you can fall fair and square , and in the wake of a banter with grateful hearts after back on the road , waiting for the arrival of true love . We can do anything that anyone brief lover, but always loyal lover waiting to do by far .
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